Men of Reddit, What’s the one thing you hate about being a man?

30 thoughts on “Men of Reddit, What’s the one thing you hate about being a man?”

1. If there’s any one thing its that I never feel like I’m desired. If I don’t make a move no moves will be made

2. Looking at an entire wall of clothing in a store and only seeing neutral colors and blue.

3. That I must be swift as the coursing river

4. prostate cancer

5. Tons of pressure to lead, to earn, and to provide. All while walking on a very narrow rope.

6. I hate how uncomfortable I can sometimes make women idk when walking alone at night. Like sometimes you can just tell when they start walking faster and try to give you a wide berth. I completely understand why, I don’t blame them. But it always makes me feel bad or like I should say something to ease the tension. But that’d probably make it worse. “Oh don’t worry I’m not going to assault you!”

7. Sometimes my penis just won’t listen to me.

8. Dick touching the cold porcelain of the toilet

9. If you sit to pee sometimes you will screw up and piss through the gap between the toilet seat and the bowl.

10. Being expected to romantically initiate.

11. Leaking after I pee, no matter how much I shake it out.

12. The one thing I dislike on the whole is being framed as “a big strong man” in the context that means I’m about to be asked (read: told) to do grunt work. Like. No. You aren’t flattering me or buttering me up as much as you seem to think you are. Really anything that plays to “you’re a straight dude, so we’re going to play to your ego and/or innate love of cars, spots, and women as sex objects” just misses me and leaves me feeling insulted.

    Don’t get me wrong, being seen as a predator or a potential threat also sucks but I can at least understand that. I know I’m not a danger to women but they don’t.

13. Ass hair

14. The thin line between toxic masculinity and being too emotional. You have to have an exact amount of emotional vulnerability in precisely the right circumstances or you fall into one of the above categories

    Edit: for the people saying I am choosing the wrong people to be around, it’s not that simple. I am very selective with who I allow in my inner circle and have been fortunate to find a handful of like minded people I call friends. My perspective is more from a dating standpoint. When making a first impression, I feel compelled to uphold a certain standard of a man. Not saying I can’t be myself, but more so I feel the need to suppress certain aspects of my personality until a bond is formed where I feel I can safely express some of my deeper emotions. I’m sure we all can agree that there are things we would tolerate from people we’ve known for years that would be unacceptable from someone we’ve only known a few days or weeks. Personally it takes years of being around someone and getting a feel for who they truly are before I feel that level of emotional safety. Some people may think that’s the wrong way to go about it, but like many other men that’s simply what life experiences have taught me.

15. Sweaty balls.

16. I love children and I would love to babysit but people think it’s creepy that a man likes children but i don’t mean any sexual intentions. I just love them because they are innocent and their minds are so creative. I love playing with them because I’m still a child in my heart.

17. About a month ago, I was walking down the street in Copenhagen, it was close to midnight, and I was the only one on the street. It was dark and a bit foggy. I was minding my own business, having my headphones on. I hadn’t noticed, at some point, I was walking about 15 ft behind a young woman. She was clearly walking faster, sligtly looking over her shoulder at me.. I understood the situation, and stopped walking, pretending to look at windows, while she had time to walk out if sight.
    I understand why she probably was nervous, walking alone down a dark street, with and older guy walkkng behind her, and as such, gsve her space to get some distance between us.
    I also hate, that, thats where we are.

18. Today made me realize a new one, I recently got 2 kittens and when I went outside with them today they attacked my drawstring one of their claws pierced my sack.

19. Lack of emotional support. People always think you have some hidden agenda.

20. Having to kill the spider

    Bitch I’m scared too

21. Unintentionally scaring women and kids. Was sitting in my car waiting for my wife. The owner of the car next to me came out to get into her car, saw me, and hurriedly jumped in her car and locked the doors. I was wondering why she was acting so scared…

22. When I go to pee and have it all lined up just for it to shoot out a 40 degree angle.

23. I guess men’s fashion. I’ve had absolutely no luck finding anything I like, and all my current clothes are very plain

24. Many people in my life assume that I can just turn off my anxiety and depression at will to “power through” because… manly man reasons.

25. The automatic assumption that I just *know* about mechanics, carpentry, and DIY.

26. Baldness. I miss having hair to run my fingers through. In my teen years I grew it out because I knew I wouldn’t have it for the rest of my life. I miss playing with it, I miss the warmth, and the cooling ( short hair actually acts as cooling fins compared to being bald and sweat just pouring off), I miss the sense of it being blown in the wind, I miss the slight protection against bumps and scrapes (cabinets are the bane of my existence).

    When I had a girlfriend, one of the nice things she would do would be to drape her hair over my head so I could reimagine having hair.

27. As a single dad my son is generally excluded from things like park meetups or birthday parties because apparently I don’t fit in with the other parents. I’ve probably been told it a thousand times in a thousand variations. What they actually mean is I’m a man and mums don’t want me around because it’s generally just mums.

28. A broke mom is trying her best, a broke dad is a deadbeat.

29. Being completely invisible. It can be an advantage. When I want to I can go about my day in peace without interuptions from anybody. And sometimes you just want to slip into the background and be anonymous. But at the same time nobody asks you how you are doing, if you need help or aknowledge that you exist at all. If you have problems you just have to deal with it yourself and get over it. On the plus side you get good at problem solving, but it can be mentally tiring and demotivating at times. A lot of men are completely starved for positive attention. Not just from women, but any kind of positive attention at all. The last time I heard anything positive about my appearance it was from grandma. It was 15+ years ago and I am pretty sure she was drunk.

    I talked with my wife about this a few years ago and she found it very weird and sad. After that she has started to say something positive from time to time to the people she work with. The first time she did it was one of her closest coworkers. He was completely dumbfounded by it. He knew very well that it was just a friendly compliment, but he said he didn’t really know how to handle it. Because he could not remember the last time something like that had happened.

30. It’s a pet peeve of mine, but how a lot of girls expect guys to approach them, or impress them. Guys are expected to go up to girls to start a conversation, or ask them out. Why?

    The Bumble dating app tried to reverse this by getting women to start conversations. All that did was get women to say “hey”, from my experience as a guy, if you reply with a “hey” back, they don’t reply anymore.

    If a guy did that, I can tell you that the response would be split 50/50 (those that respond and those that don’t). But if a woman said “hey”, most guys will respond. Why? **Because it feels good to be the one that gets the attention rather than having to give attention.**

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