Late bloomer here. I was seeing this guy for a short period of time and things escalated but no sex yet. The next time we met he suggested sex and I wanted to but I haven’t told him yet that I’m sexually inexperienced. I know some people see this as a shit so I wanted to be transparent first. I’m in my twenties. Basically at this age, I don’t see virginity as something sacred that I’m “losing”. Because I haven’t told him yet and I don’t want to do it over text, I’ve given a strict yes-we’re-going-to-have-sex no-no to my answers. I didn’t rule out that possibility either. After weeks of trying to decide on the next damn date (the nature of her work being busy), she basically indicated that she’s only up for casual sex. I didn’t go along because I’m not going to promise him sex when I haven’t told him yet? I’m not sure how he was going to react to that information the next time he was looking forward to having sex. It’s been a few months since we last talked and I’m sexually frustrated about him. If I reach out to her, what are the chances of her saying yes? And if I tell him I’m sexually inexperienced, is he still up for it? Is being a virgin in your twenties a disadvantage? Like does it feel like there’s something wrong with me or am I afraid of getting too attached after sex?