Is it more or less pleasant for men to enter a dry or sufficiently wet vagina?

My partner keeps penetrating me when I’m not wet enough. Sometimes it hurts too much and I tell her to stop, others it’s a bearable pain so I let her go. I told him to wait for me to get wet but he still didn’t. I’m starting to wonder if it feels more pleasurable for her then the friction given by penetrating when my pussy is still dry. Are there any dangers in such practice?

35 thoughts on “Is it more or less pleasant for men to enter a dry or sufficiently wet vagina?

  1. … it’s not that it feels better. I mean look at dogs when they are horny they hump a teddybear a cat your leg it’s not that it feels better. It’s more self control that stops us from hurting our partner. I would recommend reacting negatively. Yell ouch. Stop the intimate moment for at least 10 minutes let him know you need to be wet or sex is off the table. And teach him foreplay.

  2. Don’t just ask him to stop, just stop it yourself. Take some control and be proactive when you need it. Also lube helps 🙂

  3. Flashback to the shittest sex I ever had. Wanted to go down on her instead/first but she was insistent. Just on the borderline between irritating pain and outright suffering. Actual legitimately stupid sex.

  4. This guy doesn’t respect you and doesn’t care about your pleasure. Even if it feels better for him which is unlikely that’s not a justification to hurt you and yes, there are dangers in dry PIV. More microtearinga of the vigina significantly increase the risk of infection and inflammation. Take back control over your own body.

  5. Way less pleasurable for him to I would imagine–the amount of friction is rough on the penis too if it’s not wet. Definitely get some lube to jump start the process and like others said reevaluate how much this guy respects you.

  6. Look, the main issue here is that you asked him not to do it, yet he completely ignores your wishes in favor of his own gratification. That’s a rapist’s mindset.

    Dump the entire man ASAP. If he wants it dry so badly, he can fuck his own fist.

  7. Way less. Like, *way* less. Is he somewhat inexperienced? And yes, there are risks to you. Aside from making your pussy sore and raw, you’re at serious risk of tears.

  8. Not to jump on the band wagon but if he can’t respect your wishes when it comes to something like this you might need to move on.

    In my experience it’s way less pleasurable when it’s not wet enough…and as others have said one of you will end up tearing something if not careful.

    He should warm you up with foreplay and if you still aren’t wet enough (many women arent) then use a little lube to help.

  9. You could use lube, but you should only use it to help along the process, not as a substitute for your “readiness”. It sounds like he doesn’t give a shit how you feel (but that’s just from your brief description), so I would be clear that it’s a no if you’re not feeling comfortable and ready. If he’s weird about that, then he’s not ready for a relationship, is a child, and/or a clinical moron.

    For me, it’s less pleasurable the tighter it is personally, I enjoy it more with my gf when she’s wetter and there’s a bit more “give”.

  10. You need to dump this dude.

    But to your question: I love wet all day long. My wife and I (in our 50’s, so perhaps more dryness than in her 20’s) foreplay it up until she’s plenty wet and horny, then we get into vaginal sex.

  11. My wife enjoys it when she’s not as wet actually. This usually occurs in the early morning hours and we’re just lounging around half asleep.

    I’d casually start touching her and ofc I’d be ready to go but she’d like grind herself back onto me and be pretty dry so I’d try to get her more excited but she’s okay with my ” probing “.

    We’ve done it this way for the past 4 weekends and though I’m intrigue why she’s had this sudden interest with me umm forcing myself inside of her I think I know?!?!

    It’s not for everyone of course but not always the worse thing I think. I could be wrong

  12. It hurts me if I go in on any woman that’s not wet. Feels like razor blades going down my shaft. Pretty big sign you didn’t warm her up first!

  13. Less pleasurable. I find it fairly uncomfortable if she’s not wet enough, and if she’s dry it can be painful and even damaging for not just her but also me. There are absolutely dangers. Both of you can get micro-tears and abrasions, which can open the door for bacterial infections.

    That dude sounds awful. Stop having sex with someone who is so selfish and who can’t even put in the most basic bare minimum effort to make sure you are enjoying it, let alone comfortable. Especially since you already communicated to him that it was a problem and painful and he ignored you. That is a huge red flag. He doesn’t care about you and you should ditch him ASAP. The correct response when a partner tells you something doesn’t feel good or hurts and they need you to do X is to listen to them and start doing it, not keep hurting them. No exceptions or excuses. He has shown you he doesn’t care enough to do that. When someone shows you who they are, you should listen to them.

  14. It’s more intense, there’s more friction. I like it, but a) I’m a masochist, and b) if I ask someone to stop something, I expect them to stop.

    OP, it doesn’t matter why your boyfriend likes it, what matters is that you said no and he’s still doing it

  15. No… it doesn’t really feel good in my opinion. But I’m ashamed to say, at times I haven’t realized how dry things have gotten down there. Use lube, or teach the guy how to foreplay. I’m a huge fan of coconut oil. Great lube and edible.

  16. You should never be bearing pain during sex. PERIOD.

    DO NOT LET HIM PENETRATE YOU UNTIL YOU ARE READY.

    Stop him. If he continues he is raping you. Break up IMMEDIATELY.

    Sex is supposed to be pleasurable for both parties. NEVER UNPLEASANT.

  17. Not particularly. It can also cause him a frenulum tear.

    That aside, NO ONE should be moving on to PIV when they’re not ready. Next time he tries and you aren’t ready, ask him if he’d be ok with you stuffing his flaccid penis in you and trying to bounce on it? That wouldn’t be comfortable for him, so why does he want to have sex when you’re not ready for it?

  18. This is assault. He is entering you without your permission. Whether it feels better to him or not, this is just wrong and a massive red flag.

  19. Not pleasurable, it hurts the skin, so I guess he is more resistant than average. Completely dry is not even possible to penetrate without some accessory lubricant. Despite being not that pleasurable to penetrate, once inside it’s the same thing if the woman is completely wet or not, so guess he is going for that feeling after the penetration, but without patience for some reason, probably because he is too young.

  20. Penetrating a dry or not wet enough vagina is not pleasurable in the least and it is cruel and disrespectful to the woman.

    Plus the fact that you asked him to stop and he continued anyways shows he’s basically raping you.

    The danger in this practice is possible tears of your vagina. As well as the general mental wounds of suffering from sexual abuse.

    Your partner is a disrespectful abusive ass. You need to get away from him.

  21. Penetration without enough lubrication can be very uncomfortable and even painful. It can also increase the risk of tearing or irritation of the vaginal walls, which can lead to infection or other complications. It is important that you communicate with your partner about your discomfort and ask them to wait until you are sufficiently lubricated before engaging in penetration. If the problem persists, it may be helpful to have a conversation with your partner about their pleasure and preferences, and try to find a compromise that works for both of you. Additionally, you can try using a water-based lubricant to help with the dryness and make the experience more comfortable for you. It’s important that both partners are willing to work together to find a solution that is comfortable for both of you.

  22. WTF. This sounds like borderline assault.

    Yes, the immediate danger is tearing of the vagina, labia, penis, etc.

    Why the hell are you with a guy who you make it sound like they are forcing themselves on you and they are not listen to you when you say it hurts. Jesus.

  23. No, and let me just tell you that what you are experiencing is a man that has no self control, might just enjoy adding pain into the equation, and doesn’t respect your boundaries and wishes.

  24. Not at all, tbh unless it’s like agreed upon or a quickie, even then you should be a little wet or atheist some spit should fix it. It does not feel good dry, ESPECIALLY if he is uncircumcised.

  25. I’ve always felt that if it’s dry, her body is telling you no even if her mouth doesn’t.

  26. I always found it uncomfortable not only because I knew she wasn’t having a good time but like that dry friction just plain hurts

  27. For this cat, it’s about her pleasure, so her being dry does not compute.

    Mental build up, teasing , things other than PIV get a woman going if she needs help.

    Not saying PIV can’t happen first if she’s crazy for it and can’t wait but mostly like her having an O in other ways first and in my experiences, woman love the build up and won’t be dry

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