I think this point is where sex connects me to people. After not being with anyone for a long time, I casually slept with this guy several times. He was so kind and gentle with me in the sense that he checked whether I was comfortable and asked consent to do things that no one has done for me before. It has left me with a lot of sexual trauma from where I have always felt very used after sex. This time I am not used and because of this I have fallen for him. I had to stop seeing him because we didn’t agree. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to prevent this from happening?